Validation

Happy Wednesday. ¬†I have found a little quiet space in my day to share my thoughts with you all this week. ¬†I am continuing to gather research and ideas for my book. ¬†Writing this book is lighting me up from the inside out. ¬†I really cannot wait to fully dive in deep and get it all on paper. ¬†Maybe because its been trapped in my head for years. ¬†A dream waiting to escape. ¬†Believe me when I say you don’t want to be trapped in my head. ¬†It is a beautiful engine that never turns off with a million ideas all wanting my time simultaneously.

Today I want to share my thoughts on validation. ¬†As a Parent Coach, I get a lot of calls for help and many of them revolve around this need for validation. ¬†I am doing it right? ¬†(I could get really philosophical on the merits of “right”, but I will save that for the pages of my book.) ¬†By mild definition the term validation implies approval. ¬†I get it… I am a mom… I am on this journey… no one is paying me… rarely do those munchkins thank me… and maybe, just maybe in about 25 years I will find out if I did an ok job. ¬† So here are my thoughts on this: what would happen if we didn’t look for validation and instead we looked for evidence? ¬†Those morning hugs, those well feed chubby cheeks, the dinner table conversations… the moments we look at them and know they are ours and we are so incredibly proud – well, maybe those moments happen when we peek in on them fast asleep, but you know what I mean. ¬†Be open to your own incredible capacity to parent, as in there lies all the validation you need.

The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.

Oliver W Holmes