Happy Wednesday. ¬†I have found a little quiet space in my day to share my thoughts with you all this week. ¬†I am continuing to gather research and ideas for my book. ¬†Writing this book is lighting me up from the inside out. ¬†I really cannot wait to fully dive in deep and get it all on paper. ¬†Maybe because its been trapped in my head for years. ¬†A dream waiting to escape. ¬†Believe me when I say you don’t want to be trapped in my head. ¬†It is a beautiful engine that never turns off with a million ideas all wanting my time simultaneously.
Today I want to share my thoughts on validation. ¬†As a Parent Coach, I get a lot of calls for help and many of them revolve around this need for validation. ¬†I am doing it right? ¬†(I could get really philosophical on the merits of “right”, but I will save that for the pages of my book.) ¬†By mild definition the term validation implies approval. ¬†I get it… I am a mom… I am on this journey… no one is paying me… rarely do those munchkins thank me… and maybe, just maybe in about 25 years I will find out if I did an ok job. ¬† So here are my thoughts on this: what would happen if we didn’t look for validation and instead we looked for evidence? ¬†Those morning hugs, those well feed chubby cheeks, the dinner table conversations… the moments we look at them and know they are ours and we are so incredibly proud – well, maybe those moments happen when we peek in on them fast asleep, but you know what I mean. ¬†Be open to your own incredible capacity to parent, as in there lies all the validation you need.