Confidence

Happy Wednesday Everyone! ¬†My boys are officially out for summer holidays. ¬†I find myself somewhat relieved from the every day schedule, yet I am having to adjust to the noise, mess and overall chaos of having three little men in the house. ¬†I am still finding time to continue Parent Coaching a few of the sweetest moms. ¬†These moms always keep me present and have me asking myself the same difficult questions I am asking them. ¬†I often ask my clients who they were before they had children. ¬† When they recount what they did and how they handled themselves they were all very confident. ¬†As the conversation swings back to motherhood their tone of voice shifts and they find themselves questioning everything that has to do with raising children. ¬†It’s as though while birthing babies we seem to simultaneously birth out our ability to be or feel self assured. ¬†I know and understand that having a baby is like nothing you have ever done before. ¬†I clearly remember the day we brought our twins home from the hospital. ¬†As they lay before me on the carpet I realized I had no idea what to do them. ¬†I remember their first bath. ¬†I filled the baby bath with hesitation and I had to recite a ‘just do it” mantra over and over in my head. ¬†Yet I have to question where all of this hesitation came from and why parents today are so unsure? ¬† We use google for every minor detail, and we become obsessed with parental research and finding the answer to everything. ¬†We compare notes with our friends, which at times can be hurtful as we find out that we may not always share the same values. ¬†Uncertainty can be ok at times. In life we cannot always know the answer. ¬†In parenthood there is no right answer. ¬†What there we have is love and relationships. ¬†As long as we continue to build those relationships we will all be fine. ¬†Steady the course, stay connected and spend the time. ¬†Our parents didn’t have google? ¬†Our parents had intuition. ¬†So as the summer weather provides us with longer nights and hopefully a little time off from our every day routines, I invite you to relax into parenting and contemplate that you already know everything you need to know to parent.

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